Children & Parenting

OVER-SCHEDULED CHILDREN

While having my hair cut, my barber was talking with me about over-scheduled children. He wondered how parents keep up with all of the activities. Parents wonder the same thing. In my office parents question whether they should be taking kids to soccer practice, music lessons, robotics, church and Sunday school. If their child is…

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Neuroplasticity: Hope and Cautionary Tale

Neuroplasticity offers hope. It has to do with our brain’s ability to reorganize connections in response to learning. Cognitive behavior therapy can help us reduce stress to life’s most challenging circumstances. One of the things I get to do about every couple of months or so is to talk with a group of women surviving…

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Will my kids become addicts or dropouts?

Kids involved in athletics, music, dance and scouts are less likely to become dropouts, get pregnant early, more likely to attend college, and less likely to become drug addicts. Parents fear negative outcomes and want to do all they can to see that their children have bright futures. Kids are signed up for athletics, music,…

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GOLDEN RULE and Parenting

Religions share variations on the Golden Rule. Having learned them, we often cite the Golden Rule when explaining to children why they should treat their siblings or playmates with kindness, share, and, in general be respectful of others. As an adult, at times, I find it challenging to reign in a smart remark to rudeness…

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CAN YOU POSSIBLY CHANGE YOUR MIND?

“I am who I am. I say what I think. You have to accept me for who I am. With me, what you see is what you get. I’m not afraid to call a spade a spade.” When you hear somebody present themselves in this manner, do you admire them for being forthright? Do you…

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Am I Ugly?

Am I ugly? Is a question most of us have asked ourselves at least once? A few years ago there was a YouTube explosion as teens around the world were filming themselves and asking the opinion of public viewers. Some say it was an attempt to get attention, others say it comes from low self-esteem,…

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Emotional Abandonment: When the Need for Connection is Unmet

The word “abandonment” often brings up the image of someone having been left behind physically. When we think of children, two of the most obvious forms of abandonment include a child being given up for adoption or a parent leaving or neglecting a child. There are other forms of abandonment that are subtle, but can…

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Respecting the Little Person

Often, parents tell me, “I’m the parent he/she must do what I say, just because “I said so.” They do not need to understand, know why, or ask any other questions. Dear parents, may I suggest something…. There are times children simply need to do what they’re told, but there are times, when providing an…

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Did I do something that caused my kid to have this anxiety or OCD?

Did I do something that caused my kid to have this anxiety or OCD? The answer would almost always be “no” to this questions. Some parents do place a lot of pressure on their children. Some are emotionally or physically abusive to their kids and these actions can cause fear or anxiety reactions. OCD or…

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Body Image Obsessions in Children and Adolescents

Research Eating disorders and other body image difficulties are on the rise in young children. Many counselors around the world are reporting clients as young as 7 years of age talking about body dissatisfaction and dieting. In my own practice I have seen emerging concerns of this same nature. (1)In her article “A National Obsession,”…

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